Saturday, April 21, 2007

Being 25

When I was 25 I figured I knew it all.

  • I had left home and chose to live in a different country

  • I had fallen in love many times

  • I had experienced many types of work

  • I had been given some fantastic opportunities

  • I had traveled to some beautiful places

  • I had been wild

  • I had been responsible

  • I had lost a baby through miscarriage

  • I had lived with a man I thought I loved

  • I had shared my life with good friends

  • I had found the ideal job

  • I had the respect of my parents and family

I found myself pregnant again when I was 25. I was very happy, and even when the father of the child I carried did not want to have the baby, I remained happy and planned my life as a single mother. I thought that by the time I delivered this child I would be mature enough and would have had enough life experience to be a wonderful, loving mother.

Things didn't quite go that way! I was terrified when he arrived. Scared that I would do all the wrong things, motherhood does not come with the delivery. I really thought I would be fine since I wasn't a teen or a very young mum. I kept my fears to myself and did the only thing that I could... my very best. Of course, I screwed up on a number of occasions, but the experience made me a better mum.

Even up until he was 16 I was worried that I was doing the wrong things. When he made mistakes I figured it was because of something I had done wrong. But eventually I had to let him take responsibility for his actions, and when I did, it was a huge load off my shoulders. Don't get me wrong, he wasn't a bad kid, I had just taken on ALL the responsibility ALL the time.

So here we are now, with him turning 25. He has experienced a lot too.

  • 4 years of university

  • living in another city by himself

  • living in another country by himself

  • teaching in a country whose first language is not English

  • facing a judge for a error in his own judgment

  • losing a loved one

  • watching his friends losing a loved one

  • long and solid friendships

  • girlfriends

  • many types of work

  • vacations in many parts of the world

However, having taken similar roads, we are different people. I was ready to take on a family, and be the mother and the person who would mould this child's life. He is still looking for fulfillment in his life.

I don't worry about him anymore, because he is a man and is capable of taking care of himself.

The best advice for anyone who has children is to think back to when you were their age and remember how you felt about your life. At 15 things were complicated, at 21 life was exciting, but was your family that important to you? Friends tend to take place of family for a few years, but then in the end, (usually about the time you have children of your own) your family plays an important role in your life.

Saturday, April 14, 2007

St. Lawrence Market Customer Appreciation Night

This was another event I posted at MEETin Toronto. 30 members signed up, although only about 25 showed up.

The food was as always plenitul.

Salads, fruits, sushi, pizza, crepes, fish, meat, cheese, pastries, apple fritters, custard tarts, juices, and chocolate covered strawberries were just some of the foods we found.

The wine and beer was only $2,

but we had to pay with Toronto Dollars.

For entertainment there was singing, dancing,

drumming and I even saw magic.

We stayed for about 90 minutes and then went home with our tummies full.

Monday, April 09, 2007

Easter Brunch

Saturday was the preparation day. I went to the market and to the grocery store and bought the last minute items necessary for the meal. I also got to the clean up of the apartment and some food preparation. I made the croissants, put together the ingredients for the oven omlettes and prepared all the fruits and vegetables.

Sunday morning I put the omlettes in the oven and started to put the veggie and fruit platters together. At 11:15 the first guest arrived. In the end Thomas cooked the hash browns, bacon and sausages, while I got the rest of the food ready and greeted my guests.

There were 17 of us in all and we had a wonderful time eating and drinking and eating some more. We shared stories and information about ourselves, and generally had a fun time.

The menu had some additions that guests kindly brought along and I think by the end everyone was satisfied by the food.

We had:
· Ham, green pepper and cheese omlette
· Roasted red pepper and cheese omlette
· Asparagus and cheese omlette
· Hash browns
· Sausages
· Bacon
· Bagels
· Cream cheese
· Hot cross buns
· Croissants
· Preserves
· Dolmades
· Babaganosh
· Hummus
· Salad
· Veggie platter
· Fruit platter
· Muffins
· Cookies
· Candies
· Fruit juices
· Tea and coffee

My guests included:
· Howard
· Sharon
· Al
· Devashish
· John
· Nick
· Charles and his friend John
· Lynn
· Lynn
· Niki
· Mark
· Alex
· Beatriz
· Ildiko
· Thomas

Each guest was given a little treat left by the Easter Bunny.

Around 4 pm the guest stared to leave, and then Beatriz and I washed and dried the dishes. After she left I sat down with a cup of tea, feeling happy that it all turned out so well.